You can’t have a relationship without communication – and you are not a bank, says Annalisa Barbieri
My partner of 16 years considers me unreasonable for questioning him over a £100 gift to his son from our joint account. The money was to get his son’s pension started and is the latest in a long line of financial contributions to both his sons.
My partner and I are in our 60s; his sons in their 30s. He has a kind and generous nature, but his finances haven’t always supported this characteristic. He won’t discuss it. I paid off his mortgage recently and had already given him a lump sum towards it. I have also paid tax bills and credit cards – but he hasn’t changed his spending habits. Although there were no conditions attached to these payments, they were made on the mutual understanding that they were in both our interests and towards our better future together. I have contributed to large maintenance projects on his house (which we live in) and towards daily living costs. We have never discussed how “equal” this arrangement is, just that things “seem to work out”.
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