More reality, less fantasy, will help you understand who you are and what you really want, says Annalisa Barbieri
I am a 34-year-old virgin. This wouldn’t be such a big issue were it not for the inevitability of heartbreak. Every now and then, I fall in love with someone – often at work – and I become infatuated before I know them properly. There is always a big conversation in which I admit to my feelings and she says she doesn’t feel that way at all. Then I’m heartbroken for about four months. These feelings are purely romantic and I never fantasise about having sex with any of the women. I think I might be asexual but I can’t be sure, given that I’ve never had a relationship.
I know I’m not normal in how I approach romance, but I don’t know exactly what is wrong with me. I can’t get help. When I’ve tried, I have been taken through the checklist: I am in stable employment, can do everyday tasks and don’t have thoughts of suicide, so I don’t stand a chance of moving up the long [NHS] waiting lists for counselling. But if I don’t find a way out of this cycle, it is only a matter of time before I fall in love again, get rejected and spend another six months listening to sad songs about unrequited love.
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