You may not want to cook or eat together, but let him know how you feel without making his choices seem invalid, says Annalisa Barbieri
My partner of 20 years decided last year that he wanted to try a vegan diet. He had just turned 50 and had suffered the loss of his estranged father, so he had reasons enough to evaluate his life. There are worse problems than a vegan partner, but I am not handling it well. I go through periods of avoiding eating and cooking with him. I don’t want to offend him, and I don’t want him to offend me. I don’t believe veganism is a good choice for personal or planetary health, and I feel healthier on a low-carb diet; we both realise we are not going to persuade each other to change diets.
He has lost lots of weight and looks great, and is happy with his choice. But I feel sad that he may never cook another delicious chicken dinner for me, and I am seething underneath that he immerses himself in vegan “propaganda” and has withdrawn from the family culinary traditions. To be fair, I lack a love for beans and avoid starch, so he isn’t left with much choice except withdrawal.
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